Some say boys grow late. The truth is a ‘boy’ will never mature. Whereas, a ‘man’ is always mature. When it comes to a relationship, every girl dreams of having a mature boyfriend. We keep listening to girls saying, ‘I want a man in my life.’
They refer to the mental maturity of a male that sets him above an immature ‘boy.’ If you are a matured woman, you need a real man in your life who can keep pace with yours. A childish person is not a suitable partner for you.
But judging a person is not that easy. A person may appear mature at first, but in the long run, he may seem childish. He may not be an emotionally stable person. In that case, the total responsibility of your relationship comes on the shoulder of the mature woman, i.e., you.
Who is a matured lover?
A lover can be considered to be a mature one if he gives you the necessary space, respects your decision, considers your opinion, and handles the relationship with care, love, and respect. A grown man knows what to expect from a relationship. He will never force you to do things that you do not want to.
He will always listen to your problems. He will be responsible for the relationship and would make the bond stronger with ease and spontaneity. However, in the beginning, you may find him agreeable at every step. But with time, you might realize whether he is matured or not. So, there are some signs which you may look for in him to decide his maturity level.
If he understands priority, he is mature. Every relationship is based on the right priority choices. If you find your partner to realize what his preference is in life, he may be the one. It is not about the question of whether you are his priority in life or not.
It is about selecting a preference at a particular time. For example, you two might have a falling out on someday. But you have a crucial meeting in your office. If he is matured enough, he would wish you luck and let you finish your session.
Even if you two have some unresolved relationship issues, he will never spoil your concentration by talking about those issues right at that time. He will weigh for the right moment to come. Because he knows what is a priority. Your life will be so devoid of stress if he understands priority.
Clear about everything:
The first sign of maturity is clarity of mind. It would be best if you found whether he is clear about his life or not. Does he know what he is doing in his life? Does he understand the relationship? Does he know what his responsibility is towards this relationship? Does he realize his duties for you?
If he is evident in these issues, you might count on his maturity. Although simply answering these questions does not point to his maturity level. He can smartly answer these questions. But in real life, he can be a baby about everything. There is always a gap between theory and execution.
So, you can understand his maturity level only after spending some time with him. You have to measure his maturity at times when you both are facing a critical situation. If he is a real matured one, it will show in such a case.
An aged person knows the importance of giving each other space in a love relationship. Giving each additional personal space stems from mutual respect. If he gives you space when you go on an outing with your friends, he is a matured one.
If he understands your bad-mood days and does not turn grumpy himself, he is a matured one. If he stops an unnecessary rude piece of conversation when you are constantly unjustifiably arguing with him because you are PMS-ing, he is the emblem of maturity. Some bad moods have solid reasons. But some are without basis.
Sometimes, you do not want to talk to him or do anything romantic. If he understands your bad moods without asking for ideas, he is matured. Never let go of him. If you people are living together, personal space becomes rare. You are always with him. In a living-together relationship, giving space is a hard task.
You can consider him mature if he does not ask who is calling every time you receive a call. If your friends can come to your place anytime, you can call it personal space. If you can go to a get-together and come home late and he welcomes you with a sweet margarita instead of a bunch of questions, he is matured.
Brings the best in you:
A partner should always support each other. Whatever your trade is, he should assist you and take pains to make you the best. He would give you advice. He would help you in your work. He may not make a PowerPoint presentation for your meeting, but he might make dinner when you are doing the project.
He would understand if you come late from your office. He may not increase your trouble by unnecessary talking when you are already stressed out with your professional problems. A matured person will never ask you to give up on a difficult situation. If your man is developed enough, he will ask you to keep trying. And he will rejoice when you tell him about your success.
Now, there are several other signs to fathom the emotional maturity level of a person. However, these signs are the first and foremost signs of maturity that you should look for in your man. No one wants a partner who gets offended by little issues.
A mature man knows you are his girl. Nothing is more important to him than your smiling face. However, a matured man would never hesitate to point out your negative traits of character. So, if you are having a relationship with a grown man, be mature yourself.